http://app-ekikaseven-1.aidpage.com/ "ANGELS" SOMETIME WE NEED AN 'ANGEL', SOMETIME WE NEED TO BE THE 'ANGEL' ' Mon, 8 Jan 2007 21:15:47 PST en-us Aidpage(SM) http://comment-hi-barb-this-is-great-advice.app-ekikaseven-1.aidpage.com/ Note: This aidpage was started as a comment on "Comment to those seeing help financially"Hi Barb, This is great advice. When hard times hit, people want to remain in the 'lifestyle they have become accustomed to', but this may have to change. One may need to move to a cheaper house, apt, etc. And we cannot 'wait' until the last minute. Also, most people 'fail to plan'. Everyone needs: an emergency fund. That will at least give one a little time to work with that life changing event. One needs to adopt a life of 'frugality'. This does not mean being 'cheap' or doing without. One can be really frugal in some areas an splurge a little in others. We need to decide what is really important. Keeping up with the 'Joneses' is not important. Because if we 'perpetrate', then the first time we have a hardship, we will not have the money to cover it. It is better to live 'lower' than our means than to live above our means. To many people live above their means. Sometime, we try to live within other people means. Meaning, if I have to borrow money from friends, family, etc just to 'keep up'a certain lifestyle, then I am living above 'my means'. We need to live a more simple life. And we need to realize what is a 'luxury' and what is a 'need'. Half (or more) of the things we have are 'luxuries'. Let me give you an example. Alot of people complain about needing 'diaper/pampers'. If they would use 'cloth' diapers, then these are reusable. People have used cloth diapers (and rubber panties) for centuries. They have done just fine. In the United States, we have become so used to 'convenient items' that we have come to believe it is a 'need'. It is not. All we are doing is just making these big companies that produce these items rich. They get richer while the common man gets poorer. That is why they call us 'consumers'. By the way, we 'consume to much'. Thank you for reminding people on how to be frugal, Fri, 26 Jan 2007 21:07:39 PST http://comment-hi-if-there-is-someone-out.app-ekikaseven-1.aidpage.com/ Note: This aidpage was started as a comment on "Home page of ekikaseven"HI, If there is someone out there who cannot financially afford to take care of your child or children (up to 2). My husband and I are interested in adopting them. We are a stable, christian couple. The adoption would be an OPEN adoption. You would have FULL contact with the child, that will not be a problem. Prefer older child in the age range of 3 to 6 years. Will consider others. While cannot give you dough, can provide your child a loving home. Will provide parent a small stipend. If you know of someone, let me know. Prefer child to be in good health. Thank you all in advance. P.S. I am NOT desperate, so please avoid any bogus replies thinking one will play on the emotions. Tue, 6 Feb 2007 21:43:14 PST http://comment-you-have-to-be-strong-you.app-ekikaseven-1.aidpage.com/ Note: This aidpage was started as a comment on "lies"You have to be strong. You have to put them out. Whether your son follows his girlfriend or not, that is his choice. You cannont 'hold' on to him by 'being responsible' for his life and those he associate with. I know you probably think I am being cruel. But a few years from now, YOU WILL UNDERSTAND EXACTLY WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT. You, my dear, are setting yourself up for alot of 'heartbreak and pain', not to mention financial loss. Put your foot down now! I don't know how long these people have been living with you but the longer your wait, then you might have to go through 'legal means (eviction)' to get rid of them. Since, they have stolen from you, then you can get the police involved. Stand your ground. I'm sure your son probably will get mad at you. If he wants to 'act' like a man, then 'treat' him like a 'man'. Men provide for their own women. It is not another person's place to pay for a man's piece of-----. Good luck! Wed, 21 Feb 2007 07:15:05 PST http://christmas-is-coming-soon-christmas-is-coming-soon.app-ekikaseven-1.aidpage.com/ CHRISTMAS IS COMING SOON, CHRISTMAS IS COMING SOON!!!!!!! Alot of people will be stresing out during this time. Some will want to buy their loved ones Christmas gifts. And, then there a CHILDREN. And we all know what stress a child can put on a parent to get gifts. Everyone may not be able to buy the gifts they would like too for Christmas. Some get depressed because of not being able to afford to get what others are getting. The holidays can be very stressful. It is a known fact that alot of people commit suicide during this time of year. There are different reasons of course. Some of the reasons are: 'loneliness', 'dispair over the loss of a loved one (whether through death or seperation)', 'feeling left out of things', 'sickness', 'heartache', and 'financial problems'. Now these are just some, I'm sure the list goes on. I don't know how to make the holiday times less stressful for others but these are just a few of the things that have helped me. (1) Remembering, its Christ's BIRTHDAY we're celebrating. I can give others a birthday gift on their birthday! But since its Christ birthday and not others birthday (unless your birthday is on same date), then I should give Christ a birthday present.So, except for a few select people, I will not stress myself out by trying to get everyone a present. (2) My Grandmother always taught me that when someone 'makes you a present' it is from the HEART, therefore being more special then a 'store bought one'. Therefore, I try to make some gifts for my loved ones. Whether it be a craft item of flowers, baking cookies, making special vinegar, etc--it is from MY HEART. (3) Get family involved in a giving tradition. Instead of gifts for ourselves, I created small bags of items to take the Veterans in the VA hospital/VA nursing homes. I created over 50 of these. On Christmas day we take these gifts to the veterans. Not only that, but spend the whole day visiting and talking with them all. It really brightens up the vet's day. Some of the older vets don't have anyone to visit them. (4) Alot of people 'pull a name' to buy a gift for. I have found this to be a great idea. (5) The Dollar Stores have nice toys and gifts. I know you may be thinking 'how cheap'.However, if that is all the 'budget' will allow then that is what need to be bought. (6) I will not ever (again) 'charge' a Christmas present on a credit card, unless I am going to pay it immediately. It's DEPRESSING to still be paying for Christmas gifts 6 months or a year after Christmas has passed. (7) Write a poem or a short story for a loved one. Put it in a frame (you can get frames for a dollar at the dollar store). Wrap it up and give it to the loved one. This will touch their heart and mean so much to the other person. They can hang it on their wall, mantle, etc and have it for years to come. (8) For those people in your life who have always told you its the 'THOUGHT THAT COUNTS', why not give them the thought!Now, this would be good for people you like and especially those you don't like. Don't tell your 'mother-in-law' I said that.Go to a magazine, paper, internet. Cut out a picture of a Rolls Royce, Bently, a beautiful mansion, or whatever you'd like. Attach it to a beautiful, handwritten note from you.The note should state something to the effect of "This is what I would have given you for Christmas if I could've afford it.However, since I cannot afford it, I am sending you a "picture along with the thought". Afterall, its the thought that counts".And wish them Merry Christmas or whatever salutations you wish. (9) Do a Christmas dinner rather than gifts. Of course, have others to bring a plate of food, goodies, etc. Why should you do all the work, right? (10) Encourage children to bake cookies for other children in need. Take these to the homeless shelters that have kids in your area.Please supervise kids when cooking, but then you already know that! (11) A child could also paint their relatives a picture (or use crayons, etc). Their artwork can be put in a frame and given to parents, aunts, uncles, this is great for grandma and grandpa.I cannot tell you how much I treasure the artwork my kids gave to me when they were young. When they get older you are lucky to get artwork from them. Usually, we do not get ANY. So these treasures are very special and would make a great Christmas presents. Oh well, I am getting tired right now. If I think of anything else I will let you know. Please feel free to share any ideas or suggestions to make the holiday season less stressful and CHEAPER. Take care, Sun, 9 Sep 2007 22:00:25 PDT http://a-note-of-thanks.app-ekikaseven-1.aidpage.com/ I just wanted take time to express sincere appreciation for all of the Aidmates on this site and the creators of this site. Thank you for taking your precious time to help,pray for, encourage others and to give out needed information. Alot of people come here just seeking money. Of course, all the time they will not find that. However, those of you who share information to them are doing an invaluable service to them (whether they appreciate it or not). I would like to take the time to thank : Emil, Wizard, Who Knew, Soul Light, Elaine, Rosebud, the young lady who gives the clothes away (I think her name is Marsha), there is a new young lady to the group who I cannot think of her name at the moment and many many others of you out there who are helping others. I know some people get upset because we don't always 'sugar coat' everything. But sometimes, we need a 'drill sergeant'. We often share views from different perspective. Help comes in 'many forms'. The most valuable help is HELPING ONE TO HELP THEMSELF! God bless each and everyone of you for doing this. Tue, 25 Sep 2007 13:00:12 PDT